Sex dating and relationships a fresh approach adulthookup
Our conclusion in this matter is pretty countercultural, and so my temptation here is to provide a prolonged defense and justification.
A main problem with contemporary dating relationships is that they tend to grant license to sexual activity that we would otherwise intuitively deem inappropriate. In our book, we argue that a dating relationship is really just a subset of the neighbor relationship, and thus must be governed by its sexual guidelines.Our typical line goes something like this: “The Bible doesn’t really speak about sexual boundaries in dating relationships, so you’ll have to prayerfully develop your own standard.” But this has been a disaster in our Christian sub-culture.Telling teens and singles to develop their own sexual ethic is not pastorally responsible.For instance, most Christian women won’t make out with just any guy; but they will make out with their boyfriend. In short, we can’t slap the label “dating” on a male/female relationship and then justify engaging in sexual activity that we would otherwise deem inappropriate between unmarried men and women.So if “the bounds of the neighbor relationship are binding until marriage” (p.
The Levitical sexual codes (Leviticus 18) clearly prohibit sexual relationships between blood relatives.